Positively Positive!!!

^ Look at those three exclamation points. I’m passionate. ^

When I watched Parks And Recreation for the first time three years ago, I was inspired by Leslie Knope. She was so fun and positive and kind, and that was so likeable. I remember deciding to try to emulate that in my own life. That mentality lasted about ten hours. It is exhausting being like Leslie Knope.

So maybe Leslie’s level of positivity is a little unrealistic. Does that mean I shouldn’t be positive at all? Of course not.

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I’m not always a negative person. In most senses I’m a realist. A middle level between negativity and positivity. I can be positive about some things and negative about others, but I’m not naïve enough to ignore facts and truth. For example, my career. While I am getting a degree and getting good grades, I know that the job market is brutal, the cost of living is ridiculous, and there are people better and more experienced than me. These are facts, but they’re not stopping me from applying to jobs and trying my best and all that. And I think that this is the proper mindset to have for such a thing.

But for other things, like my sense of humor, for example, I think I need to change. You’ve probably noticed it in past posts but I lean toward self-deprecating humor a lot. Because I can. It’s super easy for me to joke about myself so much because of who I am. I joke about my looks a lot because I am not drop-dead gorgeous and put very little effort into my appearance. I joke about my social life because I only have a few friends and spend most of my free time by myself. Joking in this way is my coping mechanism and I figured people would either find it relatable or take pity and validate me with a laugh. But I kind of recently realized that I’ve gotten nothing from this. In fact, I’d say that perhaps it’s done the opposite and perhaps driven people away because who wants to hang out with the girl who jokes about having no friends? I’ve been around negative people, and I mean like, really negative people and it’s been awful. Interacting with constantly negative people is the worst, and I never want people to think the same about me.

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But I wonder if there are consequences with keeping these negative feelings internalized. Though I am joking a lot, underneath the jokes is truth and I can easily admit that. I wish I had more friends, I wish I was more photogenic, I wish my blog had more readers, I wish I had more confidence, I wish I was a better writer, I wish I was a better singer…. Is keeping that all inside and not letting it out through my measly jokes better for me? Or just better for people around me? I don’t want to seem whiny and pathetic but I don’t know if I should pretend I’m 100% loving life and loving where I am for the sake of being positive. How do I balance this?

Anyway. I do realize this post is coming off as whiny, but that is not the intention. The intention is to let you all know that I’ve really come to understand that as much as I do struggle with being positive, life is better when you are. And I’ve made the decision to be more positive. Positivity is contagious and fun and Leslie Knope wouldn’t have succeeded without it. I’m going into my final year of school and then going into the rest of my life, and being bitter and negative won’t do me anything. April Ludgate would be nowhere without Leslie and I can’t rely on the Leslies of the world to push me forward. Even if I can’t be fully positive (because, let’s face it, it’s really hard to be positive about most aspects of school), being neutral is still better than negative.

This won’t be easy. I’m so used to having negative jokes and being sarcastically sardonic, so forcing myself to not write them or say them will take some time. But it’ll be worth it knowing people can come to my blog or interact with me and have a more positive exchange. Besides, I know I have so many things to be positive about, so I just need to focus on that and focus on smiling more.

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Any tips for maintaining and living a positive life would be appreciated!

That’s all for now!

 

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I Hate Email

Y’all. Lol. Hey. These are all words that I can’t use when I write emails, and that is mighty unfortunate because I use those words a lot.

It’s not that I hate email as a service. Quite the opposite, really, as I think it’s very useful. I just hate how formal and ridged it is. The only people I’m emailing nowadays are professors when I have a question, or companies when I want them to hire me. I hate doing that. I hate using a nice greeting and being extra polite because they don’t know me and it’s hard to tell intentions through words. I hate having to re-read my message sixty times before I hit send bcause if there’s a typo, I can’t sent another email that just says: *because.

Email is the most used communication tool in businesses, but there are studies that show that other forms of communication like instant messaging are more effective because they’re faster and less formal. I subscribe to this theory.

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I am so much more comfortable contacting someone through messaging. Fast, casual, with emoticons and slang. And because so many people probably feel the same, it just makes our collective email use so much worse. For example, if someone didn’t put a greeting in a text/instant message, no one would be offended. Just get right into it. Good. But with email, it could be seen as rude to do that. And there’s no rule book, so chumps like me are left struggling and rewriting emails so I can raise my chances of not offending the recipient, who, honestly, is going to spend twenty seconds reading my email.

Another example is in terms of last words. One time I emailed a prof explaining that the TA unfairly marked one of my papers and asked her to take a look at it. She replied saying she’d do it on the weekend and get back to me on Monday. I spent a while debating if I should reply to that. I mean, did she really want to refresh her inbox and see an email from me, feel obligated to open it because I’m a student, only to have it read: Great, thanks. What a waste of an email. If it was an instant message, that’d be fine. In fact, I’d probably say Great, thanks 🙂 and that’d be totally okay.

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As much as I don’t like it in so many aspects of life, I do understand that formality can be important. We do want to make a good impression. Being polite is always good and I think I usually am a fairly polite person. I know not to start my job application emails with Yo dawg, but is what is so wrong with Hey? Hey is me. I start 50% of my conversations with hey and 80% of my sentences with so. That’ll be revealed pretty fast once someone starts talking to me in person. I wonder if employers are surprised by this. Do they hire somebody who they know use good email etiquette and formalities and are just mindblown when that person ends up being a young adult who uses the word ‘dope’ in place of ‘nice’ verbally?

Anyway. Email isn’t the worst. I’m just picky. And as a communications student, I think it’s very ambitious that I think critically about society’s communication methods and then am able to express my thoughts in this well-written and formal blog post.

And I’m not saying we should all delete our email accounts, because that’s silly. I just think we as a society should all loosen up and chill out and accept that when it comes to writing anything, especially emails, a more casual and relaxed tone would make everyone a lot happier. If you run a business, perhaps look into online management systems like Slack which encourage streamlined instant messaging.

Do you hate (or strongly dislike) email too? Do you struggle with formality etiquette constantly too? Leave a comment. Or email me your thoughts, if you’re up for that. I’ll reply, but I’ll rewrite my reply six times before I send it out of fear of disappointing and/or offending you by my use of “Lol”.

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That’s all for now!

P.S. I realize that this is ironic for my six email followers and anyone else who has email notifications turned on for my posts. Thank you for following me.

 

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The ‘Beautiful Is’ Tag

Tag, I’m it! It’s been a while since I’ve been tagged in anything, so I was extra pleased when Regina5000 from Diversion3000 tagged me for The Beautiful Is tag, a tag in which I have to be creative (it’s not a problem, it’s a challenge!) to answer the questions. So read on to learn about what I think such a complex concept like beauty is all about!

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The rules:

1. Link back to the original post in your introduction so nominees can get a brief context of the tag. In particular the opening of this post.

2. Thank your nominee.

3. Answer the questions

4. Tag anyone and let them know – no limit on numbers

5. Tag it as beautifulistag so the creator can read them all!

6. Comment I am beautiful at the end of your post

1. What is your definition of beautiful?
Beautiful is when something or someone makes you stop and stare in awe, and for a brief second while you do so, you’re at peace.

2. What do you find beauty in (abstract or concrete ideas)?
I can find beauty in a lot of things. People, places, things. Nouns in general, y’know? Personally, though, I think concrete/physical things are more beautiful than abstract. In an art sense, I have no interest in abstract, minimalist art, but show me a realistic painting of a mountain or something, and I’d like that a lot more.

3. When you think of beautiful, what are the first four things or words that come to mind?
Sunsets, oceans, people, love.

4. What’s a song, quote, or lyric that you think sums up beauty perfectly?
Yikes, this was hard for me. Nothing came to mind quickly so I had to scroll through every song on my phone. It turns out I have ZERO songs about sunsets…so I Googled around and found this quote from Edgar Allen Poe:

“Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears.”

5. What are seven reasons why you’re beautiful?
Hoo boy, here we go:

  1. I’m not an awful person
  2. I’m kinda funny and a sense of humor is attractive…right?
  3. My hair is luscious (aka frizzy on bad days)
  4. My body is, at least at first glance, properly proportioned
  5. I am a responsible person
  6. I’m smart. Not like scholarship smart, but like, general knowledge and cognitive skills smart
  7. I know my style and don’t try too hard to be someone I’m not

6. Tell us about a time someone made you feel beautiful. How did it make you feel?
One time, I think in January, my roommate saw me and said “I like your eyeliner,” because I was wearing eyeliner and that was really nice of her because I don’t often wear eyeliner and it took me like ten minutes to get both wings even, so for someone to appreciate it was really nice, and especially because this was around dinner time so I had already had it on all day and it apparently still looked nice.

7. If you had to draw beautiful, how would it look?
My Microsoft Paint skills once again come in handy. This isn’t the best but y’all get the gist.

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8. When was the last time you highlighted someone’s beauty to them?
I can’t remember so clearly not recently enough. I shall endeavour to do so more often.

I tag these people (who are under no obligation to do it)

Shalom

Daley Downing

Rambling Kori

Quinn

Bizarre Brunette

 

So there we go! This was a pretty fun tag and I like how it wasn’t all about posting selfies or something.  Thanks again for tagging me, Regina5000, and I hope my tagged people enjoy doing it. And I hope that everyone reading this thinks about beauty and beautiful things a bit more often.

Anyway, that’s all for now, so to close, imagine I’m saying the next sentence in a perfect Christina Aguilera impression. I am beautiful!

 

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Monthly Look Ahead: May 2017

It’s gonna be MAY. *headbangs*

Can you believe we’re about to enter the fifth month of the year? How did we get here so fast? But never mind that, let’s focus on enjoying this month. There are some exciting things coming up. As always, you are welcome to make your own MLA post because I want to know what’s getting you hyped up.

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  • Guardians Of The Galaxy Vol 2 out on May 5th. Of course this is my number one. The first GOTG movie was amazing and the soundtrack was legendary, so I have very high hopes for this second movie. Though the soundtrack came out in the last week of April, I’m not listening to it until I see the movie. I’m so excited to see that group of idiots again…plus Baby Groot is adorable and I can’t wait for more of him!
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I love this tree more than anything, okay?
  • The TV Upfronts in mid-May and though I won’t be there physically there, I’m excited for this event for two reasons. One, because they announce which last-minute shows they’ll be renewing and my fingers are still crossed tightly for an Agents Of SHIELD and Blindspot renewal, and two, they release trailers for all the new shows coming in the fall, and I like watching them. Should I do another post on them?
  • Speaking of TV, May is finale month, and though I’m sad to see my shows end for the summer, the last episodes are always so good. I just hope no one I love dies…
  • The Dirty Dancing remake airs May 24th on ABC. The original movie wasn’t a favourite of mine by any means, but I’m interested to see how this remake is. I’m always down to watch a musical.
  • The amazing band R5 has a new EP called New Addictions coming out on May 12th. Their music is always so good and so fun, so I’m really excited to hear this.
  • This is really nerdy but sometime in early May my school will release the course list for the coming year and I lowkey enjoy planning my schedule and courses, especially because the coming year will be my final year so being able to plan it out is really satisfying. I just hope the courses I want to take don’t overlap and there are no issues because that really sucks.

 

And that’s how my May is looking! What do you have going on this month? Any plans to enjoy the upcoming warm weather?

And, as it is tradition, here is an obligatory picture of my favourite May, Melinda May from Agents Of SHIELD, who did this sick move last week, proving yet again, that she is the very best.

 

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My Kids Will Be Lucky I’m Not A Hoarder

Last week I went with my parents to help out at my grandparents’ house. As of last September, both my grandparents on that side are dead, so now the family has to deal with their estate. My dad, as an executor, has been doing a lot of work there, getting the house ready to sell and sorting finances and whatnot. My grandparents had been living in that house for about fifty years, so they had fifty years worth of junk in there. When my dad and I arrived there on Wednesday night, I was led to the basement where my dad had piled boxes and boxes of stuff in the back rooms. He said he had already taken not one, not two, but twelve van loads of junk to Value Village, and that was after the five kids already took a bunch of stuff for themselves. Twelve van loads and there was still so much junk to sort through.

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And that boggles my mind because when I go to away University every September, basically everything I own fits into one van. And yet my grandparents had accumulated probably over fifteen van loads of stuff. Stuff ranging from broken furniture to TVs to ancient books to candles to glasses to shaving cream to screwdrivers to scarves to approximately 500 curling pins. It took us two whole days, but we finally managed to sort it all and, with the help of several aunts and uncles, have a successful estate sale on the Saturday.

But it was a lot of work. I’m so glad my dad already took those twelve van loads away because I can’t even fathom having to go through all of that too.

My future kids will be lucky because I am not a hoarder. And I’m not saying my grandparents were hoarders by the technical definition, but there’s really no excuse for having about 15 sets of drinking glasses. My mom, who we put in charge of sorting all the kitchen stuff, was not pleased when we kept unearthing yet another dirty box and bringing it up to her for arranging. When I’m away at school, my mom gave me a few glasses, maybe four, but last year, I only used one. I’d just keep washing and reusing that same one glass. And the same two plates and two spoons and one bowl. I work well on very little.

Though I don’t really identify as one, I guess I am a minimalist. Except with more colours because I really don’t understand why minimalists are scared of colours.

minimalismI used to laugh at minimalists. Like, do they really think they’re so much better than the rest of us because they don’t have a bed skirt or any wall art? But it’s not about that. It’s about living a freer life and not having a lifestyle that revolves around material possessions. You don’t need ten pairs of shoes to live a full life. Besides, think of all the money I save by not buying things.

When me and my future attractive husband are dead and my future successful children are left to deal with my house, they’ll be lucky I don’t hoard things or have an excess of belongings. They’ll be lucky that I understand how unnecessary so many things are and do not care for a lot of things (like decorative pillows).

My future successful children will have it fairly easy. I can’t say the same for myself though. While my parents’ eyes have been opened by the recent events with my grandparents’ house and they plan to do a small purge, they are not minimalists at all. My mother is constantly trying to get me to buy more clothes and I’m not sure how someone could need more than one or two screwdrivers, (especially if they have interchangeable bits) but I guarantee my father has several down in his workshop.

I’m not saying everyone has to immediately convert to a minimalist lifestyle or toss out all their favorite things, I’m just suggesting that perhaps you take advantage of spring and do some spring cleaning. Get rid of any old stuff. Sell it online, throw it out, or, better yet, have a garage sale! Tis the season to make dealing with your inevitable death easier on your loved ones!

That’s all for now!

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