The other day I went to a concert by myself. Buying a ticket was kind of a spur-of-the-moment decision so I didn’t have a chance to plan to go with a friend and I didn’t want tickets to sell out. The concert ended up being really good and I’m glad I went.
But there’s this social stigma that makes going to things alone seem uncool. Concerts are seen as a Squad Event, movies are for Dates, and eating out is for literally anyone but just you. But what if you only have a few friends? Or they don’t live near you? Or they can’t afford to go to things? Or they have different interests? Am I supposed to miss out? No. No way. I’ve missed out on a lot of things but I’m doing my best to not do that anymore. I’m a fairly independent person and in the last few years I’ve done a lot by myself. No shame!
Going alone to things is totally fine. Especially things like concerts or the movies. The fact that there’s a stigma on going to that stuff alone bothers me because it’s so fundamentally silly. All you do is sit quietly next to each other and watch the thing you’ve paid to watch. There’s no space to really interact much so what does it matter if you’re there alone or with three people? Are you worried about other people seeing you and thinking you’re lame? I get that because it’s something I think about, but the truth is, most people either literally don’t care or notice. It’s just a fear we have to get over.
Two years ago I went to FanExpo (a comic convention) by myself. The year before I had gone with a friend but she had to work the next year. The cast of Daredevil and Danielle Panabaker from The Flash were going to be there and I wanted to see them. So I bought myself a ticket and went by myself. I had a good time but I’ll admit that I didn’t like being alone there. Not because I couldn’t handle the task of going solo or I was afraid of judgement, but because at conventions there’s a lot of waiting in lines and walking around, and I found myself pretty bored by myself. I’m not one to easily strike up conversation with strangers, so I literally sat by myself quietly as I waited, rationing the battery on my phone.
If you’re like me and are a bit more introverted and shy, then I can understand not going to things like conventions by yourself. Being bored sucks. The year after that, my friend had to work again, and because no one I really wanted to see was going, I opted to skip out. It has yet to be seen if I’ll go this year.
The point of all this is that if I really listened to society’s stigma that says it’s weird to go to things alone, I’d have missed out on a lot. So I’m here to not let other people’s circumstances affect your enjoyment. If you want to see that movie, do it! If you want to go to the mall, do it! If you’re craving some fast food chicken nuggets, go get them! Don’t let chances and moments slip by because you’ll regret it. And I’m not saying going alone is better (though in some cases it can be—sometimes people are annoying/negative and ruin the experience). I still encourage you to invite people to events and try to share those experiences with your nearest and dearest, but if things don’t work out, don’t let that stop you from doing it yourself.
Help me break the stigma. If Jason Deruuuulooo can do it, so can I.
What’s something you attended alone? Did you enjoy yourself?