I’ve never really liked the idea of new year’s resolutions. Maybe because they always seemed like a joke thing that we all abandon two weeks in. Or because they are things you resolve to firmly do rather than work towards. But that doesn’t mean I haven’t tried to set some before. A few years ago I made a resolution to be more positive. Honestly, I don’t know if I succeeded in that one. I think I’m definitely less outwardly negative, but I don’t think my innermost self is all that positive.
Anyway, on top of working on that still, I do have some goals I’d like to work toward this new year. Time may be a social construct but I do like the idea of the new year being a chance to better one’s life and rethink our potential. And this year will be an interesting one because the only thing I have to do is work. No school, no apartment hunting, no applications. Just go to work and do my job.
So here are a few things I want to work on this year. Maybe I’ll succeed sooner than I plan and be satisfied by March. Maybe it’ll take me until next December. Maybe I won’t fully succeed but I’ll be okay with the fact that I tried. I think having this mindset makes daunting goals (or resolutions) easier to achieve because there is less pressure. But by putting them here on my blog, at least they will be public and things I can’t take back quietly.
- Get my full driver’s license. This one isn’t as much of a goal as much as an absolute. I have my G2, but it expires in August, so I either get my G or go back to start. I don’t want to go back to start. So as soon as the roads aren’t too snowy and the sky isn’t too dark, I need to get back behind the wheel and gain more driving confidence. The trip to and from work isn’t long or difficult, so I should be good to do that at least. If I’m being honest, it’s not the driving that intimidates me the most, it’s the parking.
- Do more writing. I blog enough, but my second novel isn’t going to write itself. For a week or so I did some writing on my lunch break, but then I decided to reread The Inheritance Cycle, and those are some long books, so writing is taking a rest. Instead of watching dumb YouTube videos at home, I should be writing. I really did well with discipline when I had deadlines for that bookmaking course at school, so maybe I need to make fake deadlines for myself.
- I also want to keep pitching my book The Time Company to literary agents. I’ve done some (and gotten some rejections) but I know I could be doing more and learning more about how to perfect a pitch. I’ve been admittedly dragging my feet on doing more of this because every time I do something related to that book, I get a feeling that can best be described as low-level anxiety. This is due mostly to the fact that I’m incredibly mad and disappointed at myself for having several typos in the book (don’t hire a cheap copy editor and typeset at 2am, kids!). So I’d like to get better at pushing through that feeling and trusting in myself and hoping that someone is willing to take a chance on me and my story.
- Get a better social life. In school, my weekends were filled with homework (because I pushed it all to the weekends so I could watch many TV shows every weekday evening), so I wasn’t too bothered by my lack of social activities then. But now my weekends are free and I don’t really utilize this time. I have a few friends, but they’re either often busy or far away (or don’t like seeing me too often?) so I’d like to expand that social circle. I’ve had a few people suggest finding groups on Meet Up or on those friend-finding apps, so maybe I’ll grow a pair and try something. If nothing comes of it, I can always return to my lonely weekends. I’m sure I can find a new TV show to start!
- And then there’s dating…I’m 22 so I think it’s about time I went on a date with someone who is actually interested in me and vice versa. So maybe I’ll try a dating app because clearly I’m not in a position to meet someone organically in real life.
- Do more blog promotion. Sorry to everyone who follows me on social media, but I think I need to get a little bit more aggressive with my blog post sharing. Despite posting regularly in 2018 and gaining new followers, my stats and levels of interactions were down, which is sad because I want to grow and reach new people. I know I’m lazy and awkward when it comes to doing self-promos, but I need to do better. Social media has the potential to reach people. Though don’t worry, I won’t get spammy.
- Talk more. At work and even among peers, I’m quiet. I’m not good with small talk, and I won’t often start conversations. I need to push myself to do that more, though, because sitting quietly sucks and it certainly doesn’t help my social life. Even if I’m faking comfort in these conversations at first, it’ll be a start.
So those are my 7 goals for this new year. As I said, I’m not looking to master all of them right away (or at all) but they’re something to work towards. Do you have any goals you’re working towards this year or any tips to help with mine?
That’s all for now!