“Does my hair look manly to you?”
That’s an actual question that I asked my actual brother a few months ago. It’s important to note that I am a female with long hair several inches past my shoulders.
You see, when I visit home, I don’t bring much in terms of toiletries. I’ll bring mascara and eyeliner, but soap and lotion and combs are all things that my brother or parents also use so I just borrow. This extends to shampoo, I’ll just use whatever’s in the shower because I really don’t care. But in one particular instance, the only shampoo there was my brother’s Dove For Men stuff. It was a sleek grey bottle and I took a second to read the back of it. Have any of you ladies read the backs of men’s shampoo bottles? They’re hilarious. The one I had read something along the lines of ’embrace your manly nature side’. I don’t remember exactly what it said and I’d rather not text my brother to ask (gosh, that’d be such a weird conversation). But you get the gist. That shampoo guaranteed to make its users’ hair super manly, so I was a little disappointed when my brother answered my original question with a “….no?”
And that got me thinking about shampoo in general. All shampoo is probably the same, right? So it’s silly how they’re so differently advertised in commercials/magazines and whatnot. Shampoo for females is all like Fortify your hair! Get strength and shine so you can look your best! whereas men’s shampoo commercials are like Get rid of some dandruff so you can HOOK UP WITH LIKE SEVEN HOT CHICKS!!!!
While all shampoo ads (and really all ads) basically say that you’re inadequate until you use this specific product, men’s really push this hypermasculinity that’s really just uncomfortable.
No offence to men, but some of you need to think and rethink about things.
One time in high school a female friend and I were talking about some movie with a few other guys. Some male actor came up in the conversation and my friend asked one of the guys if this actor was his guy crush. After having to explain what a guy crush is (“like an actor of the same gender that you love despite your heterosexuality”), all the guys fiercely denied having a guy crush. But then they asked my friend and I if we had a girl crush. “Uh, of course!” we said and we both began listing some, to the guys’ amazement. What is it about men that they can’t accept that there are other dudes out there that they can have respect for without being considered gay?
Why are guys so worried about being gay? ‘No homo’ is a running joke in a way but I’ve actually spoken to a guy who has used it in all seriousness. And you’d think that if guys really were worried about being perceived as gay, then they’d stop taking every opportunity to casually touch each other or walk around shirtless. I’ve spent most of my social life with guys and I don’t get it. And they think women are confusing!
There’s no denying that society’s standards for women are messed up, but I think standards for men are too, only just between themselves. Like, they set their own odd standards. They always gotta be tough and think that musicals are lame and call each other “buddy” and think that The Interview is a quality example of a comedy movie. But no. Take it from me, a female, that it’s okay to have and express emotions or have “friends” or even watch a musical! Girls are still going to like you, if not even more, if you’re in touch with your ‘feminine side’.
I know I have some male readers/followers, so while I’d ideally love an explanation as to why your gender is so weird when it comes to the idea of hegemonic masculinity, I feel like there is no logical reason, so instead, leave a comment telling me your guy crushes. And then I want to hear everyone’s opinion on the subject.
That’s all for now!